Looking to make friends… Get sexual requests…

So I decide that I should try and make some local friends now that I’m getting divorced and while I love the friends I have they’re in Los Angeles… As the notion of becoming a hermit or loner aren’t all that appealing I figure I should expand my pool of friends and try to make some local friends…

How does a 30 something year old person make friends?  An app/website targeted at making friends and meeting new people sounds like the way to go…

First up was Meet Up which I still have an account on but haven’t used mostly because I don’t like groups of strangers… even if they’re super nice and welcoming I get very anxious about it… So I moved on to another option I found called “MeetMe” an app and website pegged as:

MeetMe helps you find new people nearby who share your interests and want to chat now! It’s fun, friendly, and free!

Join 100+ MILLION PEOPLE chatting and making new friends. It’s for all ages, all nationalities, all backgrounds — EVERYONE!

Sounded perfect! So I sign up and start filling out info; put down Las Vegas as my location, added a profile picture, and even disclosed being a trans woman as the start of my about section just to remove that as a factor before going on to describe my interests.  I also just in case (again feeling paranoid) made sure to mention I’m just looking to make some friends.

I didn’t really know what to expect beyond I might get more chat requests from guys than girls based on things I’ve heard/read about in the past in general about online interactions…

So m profile is all setup and I’m all happy and go on about my usual routines. Then the profile views begin and then the chats… “Hi”s and “Hello”s start to come in… Okay so a bit short but it’s cool if you don’t know what to say beyond that as an intro message.  Heck you’re braver than me since you actually sent a message so go you with your courageous self… So I click on their profile and see well nothing… some don’t even have pics let alone anything for me to read and see if we have stuff in common or even just to try and talk about…  I’m at a loss, what to do besides sending back a simple “um, hi” kind of response that doesn’t really lead anywhere.

Well I was wrong about the “not leading anywhere” part… I got back questions asking if I was horny, wanted to do various sexual things, or see dick pics… Maybe some trans women might see that as flattering I mean from what I’ve read that puts me into the woman box of being objectified if you will, but not me. I was saddened and disgusted by the fact that this is what I got when trying to make friends…

Although there was hope! out of the 12 messages the first two days I was on MeetMe I got 1 was from what seemed to be a decent guy, we chatted a little bit and then he ended up going to bed. He seemed nice and I was hopeful we’d talk again as we had at least one thing in common based on a pic of him in snowboard gear.

Maybe day 3 would lead to a follow up chat with “decent guy” or maybe another person to talk to who wasn’t looking for sex… Sadly I was wrong again, after 10 or so “Hi” type messages from empty profiles and a few more chats that quickly led to sexual requests I gave up.

Oh and in case you were wondering the picture that I’m assuming was responsible for the responses I got was this one I had previously posted on Instagram. I only say that because I had made it my profile picture.

A photo posted by Liz (@quietliz) on

I just don’t know… At this point it seems like making friends in Vegas is a lost cause, at least with the interaction methods I’m comfortable using at the moment.  Maybe I should take this as a sign…

 

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