After coming out as a trans woman some people assume I’m heterosexual now.  I guess it makes sense since we do live in a heteronormative society but it’s still a bit frustrating for people to assume that. Doing so implies my feelings for any past partners who were women were lies… That’s just an awful way to look at things while I lied about my gender identity my feelings at the time of a given relationship were true.

While I have dated a guy, for me the fact he was a guy wasn’t a determining factor. It had more to do with… well… mainly the fact he asked me out… I mean, I dunno there’s something about that that’s just… um… well… feels nice.  Now, now, before someone thinks “Oh so that’s all it takes?” he also had almost a polar opposite personality of the girl I had dated prior which was quite interesting and wasn’t giving off any creep vibes.  All that said I don’t know if I’d date another guy, I guess I can’t say with 100% certainty that I wouldn’t if the “right guy” asked, although I have no clue what that would mean.

So at this point… You’re probably thinking bisexual, seems pretty obvious… I would be up for agreeing with one caveat so to speak… Looks don’t spark anything in me, it’s all about the emotional bond.  So even then I’m not really sure that’s the right “label”. Although there’s still the issue of figuring out what the “right guy” would mean for that to apply.

While there’s no physical attraction, there’s still a desire for physical interaction so asexual is out?  Well mostly holding hands, hugs, kisses, etc.  You know think PG and that sounds awesome.  There is the rare exception I’m actually interested in more than that but in general unless it’s something that pleases the other person I’m good with keeping it PG.

So all that said, are you confused as to what “label” is right for me?  Me too… Sigh… Oh well…

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